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Welcoming to the class on Mentoring for Second Life Gor – This class is presented by the Physicians Caste of Gor but it is applicable to all people. We all in our lives find ourselves either being mentored or mentoring another. Be it in this game, at our jobs, with friends or in our families. I took this class as a part of my job last week and I sat there all day and applied it more to what I do in Gor. So I decided to share it with you. I hope you find it useful. This was an 8 hour class. I hope to condense it to an hour and in saying that I will be asking you questions and while I do I want you to open an empty note card and put your answers down on them and any questions. After we are done you can forward them to me or just hang on to them as they are educational tools for you. If you have something to share with the group I would like you to @ and be ready to respond with your question or statement pre-typed. I also ask if you can limit it as there is a quite a bit to cover. If we do run over we will break and continue it next week if necessary. And for those that want to stay after for an open discussion we encourage that as well. And if you want to share you answers to this post there please.

Okay for the first question. I want you to write down. Who was the person who has developed you to the highest level of excellence? And How? You can answer this for SL or for life in general.


Our Learning Objectives tonight are at the end of the session the participant will:

Know how to be a good receiver of mentoring
Have identified an area in which to be mentored
Have identified a pool of potential mentors
Know what mentoring is and is not
Have identified why they want to be mentored in certain areas
Have some idea what to do with a mentor/mentee

Next question for you to put on your note card.
How Many of You Would Like to Have a Mentor? And Why?

But before you answer that mentoring is NOT having someone else create, plan or manage your character for you!!!

Mentoring follows when good Character Creation has been developed.

You do not get mentored to promote! You get mentored to grow!!!! Promotion or your next career step may be an effect but it cannot be the reason you are asking to be mentored!

Mentoring is helping someone attain a level of excellence in select areas so that they are capable of enhancing their character development

Next question - In what area do you want to improve to the point of excellence? Lets describe What is Mentoring?
One person working with another to develop higher skill levels and excellence in the one mentored.PartnershipAn opportunity to grow (for the one mentored)
An opportunity to leave a legacy (for the mentor)
Mentoring is driven by the one mentored
Highly effective, when it works I want to highlight mentoring is driven by the one mentored. I hate to say it you are in the driver’s seat. Your mentor can help you enhance your character they can give you skills and ideas but only you can motivate you. It is not going to be handed to you. You have to work for it.

What Mentoring is NOT!
It is not a formal program
Passive
Training
Something to enter into lightly
A chance to get promoted

Definition
Train a new skill to usability
Coach an existing skill to competence
Mentor a competent skill to excellence

Benefits to being Mentored
Support Feedback
One-on-One insight and feedback
Accelerated skill development and knowledge acquisition
Improved self awareness
Potential for high skill and knowledge levelDepending on level of commitment
Increased opportunities
Greater visibility
Self confidence

Downside to being Mentored
Must risk failure
Must be accountable
Greater visibility
You may see things in yourself you don’t like
More work and time commitment
You may not be directly rewarded
You must be somewhat self revelatory

Ground Rules
Never breach trust or confidentiality – don’t ridicule or use humiliation to mentor.
Respect is expected
Either party can call an end to the relationship at any time, without explanation or repercussion
Boundaries are preset and honored by both parties

Ground Rules
Be flexible
Be positive
Be professional

“Deal Breakers”
“Bad Karma”
Unrealistic Expectations
Not Committed
Dishonesty/trust breach
Hidden or selfish agenda

Responsibilities of one being Mentored
Accept and consider feedback and advice
You don’t have to agree with everything
You don’t have to do everything
You do have to listen
You do have to think, consider, and play back your thoughts on what was said
Ask questions
Prepare your questions

Responsibilities of one being Mentored
Set concrete, measurable goals
Be prepared
Follow through on assignments and agreements
Be open Share things with your mentor that you learn through experience, others, and research

Responsibilities of one being Mentored
Maintain confidentiality
Say “Thank You”
Learn to mentor so you can mentor others

Tips for being Mentored
Be willing to take risks
Take feedback in neutral
Ask questions
Know what you want to know and why
Look for learning moments
Identify things you would like to try And why
Be patient
Say “Thank You” '

Exercise
What Makes a Good Mentor?

Definition of a Mentor
A person who leaves a living legacy behind in the form of people who have benefited from the Mentor’s life experiences.

Traits of a Good Mentor
Cares about people’s growth
Willing to give more than they receive
Willing to let others learn
Ability to commit
Ability to ask the right questions
Willingness and ability to listen

Traits of a Good Mentor
Willing to share
Willing to build a relationship
Supportive
Respected
Highly competent and knowledgeable
Must have acknowledge expertise
Able to move to “conscious competence”
Positive and secure self image
Good role model

Traits of a Good Mentor
Has the respect of the one being mentored
Knows how adults learn
Utilizes good adult learning principles
Knows how to coach
Has access to opportunities and resources

Who Do You Know That Meets Those Criteria? Why would they want to mentor you? What does a Mentor do?
Asks Questions
Listens
Coaches
Provides Learning Opportunities
Provides a Learning environment with appropriate risk and safeguards
Holds the one mentored accountable

What does a Mentor do?
Provides access to resources
Provides information
Provides advanced training

Tips for Mentors
Establish Symbiotic Goals
What do you want out of the mentoring relationship?
Provide feedback
Reinforcing
Corrective
Be yourself
Ask Questions
Listen

Tips for Mentors
Provide a different lens
Role model
Look for opportunities
For the one you are mentoring to have new and challenging experiences

Steps in Mentoring
Identify career/personal goals
Identify areas for development
Identify pool of potential mentors
Ask
Set boundaries
Identify specific goals for the mentoring encounter/relationship

Steps in Mentoring
Conduct growth activities aimed at accomplishing the goals of the mentoring encounter/relationship
Monitor progress
End mentoring relationship when goals have been met
Debrief
Renegotiate or end relationship and say “Thank You”

How to find a pool of potential mentors
  • Look in the different groups.
  • Be observant
  • Listen and watch others
And with that do we have any questions? I want to thank everyone for coming.


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